Danish Bashir

Therapist

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery coach

 

For years I couldn’t seek clarity on why the people who went on abusing me did so. The years were grotesque and I live with trauma triggers daily. Most people, including psychologists I visited, were clueless about what narcissistic abuse does to people. I was shamed further by them instead of soothed. Many of them caused further hurt.

Helplines were the worst, they fumbled while counselling me, said they couldn’t make sense of what I had gone through, asked inane questions and gave me generalized coping methods which don’t apply to survivors of narcissistic abuse. They copied and pasted lines like, “Oh how sad!” repeatedly pretending to empathize in emails.

One day, I came across videos regarding narcissistic abuse by mental health professionals who were good but lacked intersection as they were white doctors who didn’t know about the societal and family dimensions which are interwoven into the pattern of mistreatment in Asian and Indian homes.

Then I saw Danish Bashir’s video. His simply explained videos reached my heart, authentically validated and started to calm my gangrenous wound of ill-treatment. His videos had insight into what Indians going through abuse may be undergoing, simultaneously catering to a global population. His clients are from various parts of the world.

Danish’s crisp videos have effective techniques which soothe you, unlike the coping methods the abuse uninformed psychologists and helplines send. He sometimes infuses humour into his posts. Danish, having undergone narcissistic abuse instead of mechanically parroting empathy like the helplines, understands what you’ve gone through. He decodes narcissistic behaviour which most psychologists and helplines are clueless about. It’s infuriating to coach them when you are seeking help. These unqualified people haven’t heard of terms like ‘trauma bonding’, ‘flying monkey’, ‘CPTSD’, ‘codependency’, ‘gaslighting’, ‘love bombing’, ‘bread crumbing’, ‘hoovering’ and ‘trauma bonding’. You’ll get to learn about these and a lot more from Danish’s Instagram pages:

@narcabusecoach

@eternal.motivation

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